How To Confidently Pray For Your Kids No Matter Their Age
If you are interested in learning how to pray consistently for your kids, you have come to the right place!
In a world where there are 8,000 different media outlets trying to shove things at our kids left and right, telling them how to think, act, feel, and literally exist, it can be very overwhelming at times.
What’s a parent to do?
How do we make sure that they are on the right path and soaking up the right stuff?
A great place to start is on our knees, humbling ourselves before God.
Although prayer can be a tricky concept at times, it is by and large one of the most selfless things you could ever do for your kids.
I know that prayer in general can be intimidating for parents, especially if you never grew up in a religious household.
But just because something is challenging or unfamiliar, doesn’t mean we should avoid it, right?
Guess what? I have good news!
Whether you’ve never prayed before or prayer has been a part of your life for many years, it doesn’t matter.
We could all use some more guidance when it comes to praying for our kids!
Here’s my list of 5 Beautiful Things To Pray Consistently For Your Kids.
I will walk through each one in detail, and hopefully by the end of this post you will be challenged, encouraged, and inspired to put some of this into practice!
5 Beautiful Things To Pray Consistently For Your Kids
- Love God and Others
- Great Friends
- Humble and Teachable
- Love God’s Word
- Faith in the Storms
Now that you’ve seen the list, let’s look at each one in more detail!
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Love God and Others
If you are wanting to pray consistently for your kids, it’s important to know what specifically to pray for.
In Scripture, Jesus says, “You shall love the Lord your God with all your heart and with all your soul and with all your mind. This is the first and greatest commandment. And the second is like it: Love your neighbor as yourself.” (Matthew 22:37-39)
When Jesh and I think about Addie and the goals we have for her, more than anything, we desire for her to love God with all of her heart, and spend her life being fully devoted to Him.
Hopefully the love that she has for God will spill over into other parts of her life, and she will love others in a selfless and kind way.
Pray for your kids to show kindness and love to all people.
The Bible talks about idolatry and God is very specific about not loving anything or anybody more than Him.
For Addie, my desire is that her heart would belong to God, and that nothing in this world would ever surpass the love that she has for the Lord…not a toy, not a house, not her self-image, not a future spouse, not even me or Jesh.
What does a prayer for this topic look like? Where do I even begin?
I’m so glad you asked!
Here’s an example:
I lift up Addie to you, and I want to specifically pray that her heart would be yours all of her days.
Even when she’s young, I ask that she would see how important you are in her life.
I pray that more than any kind of toy or earthly treasure, you would mean the most to her.
Please help us as we parent Addie to have wisdom and discernment, to know how to guide her, and to really listen to her when she’s talking to us and asking questions.
Capture her attention with how amazing you are!
And I also want to pray that you will help Addie to love others with a selfless and kind heart.
Help her to see everyone as a beautiful creation of God, and to look for ways to serve and love them.
May serving others bring her much joy! Amen.
That wasn’t so hard, was it? If you’re intimidated by prayer, just see it as a conversation.
It’s just you and God talking.
Don’t feel like you have to be so formal! And if you don’t want to say much, that’s great!
Keep it brief.
The method doesn’t matter, what matters is just opening your mouth and speaking to God.
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Another thing to pray consistently for your kids is that God would provide them with great friends.
My youth pastor said something to us in middle school that has stuck with me for years. It’s very profound.
“You choose who your friends are, and your friends choose who you will be.”
His point was that the company you keep says a lot about who you are.
Friends can be very influential, in good ways and bad.
When I think about the friends in my life that I’m close to, they are the ones who challenge me, pray for me, call me out if I’m being a jerk, and are there for me in hard times and joyful times.
What characterizes a good friend? Words like loyal, kind, caring, compassionate, faithful, honest, and fun are some that come to mind.
If these are things that I desire in my own friendships, they’re certainly things I can pray for Addie’s future friends.
Here’s an example prayer for great friends:
Today I want to pray for Addie’s friends.
As she goes through her life, I’d love for her to have friends who are loyal, kind, good listeners, honest, and who will challenge Addie to love God first above other things.
Help her choose her friends wisely and to always be inclusive of others.
Please provide her with a handful of friends that she can do life with and completely be herself when she’s around them.
Thank you for caring about her so much more than I ever could! Amen.
Humble and Teachable
Our world is oozing with pride. It’s sickening at times.
We totally live in a “me-centered” culture. There are even shirts you can buy for your kids that say “it’s all about me.”
Ewwww. No. Not in my house.
When you pray consistently for your kids, make sure to include character qualities like humble and teachable.
The last thing I believe any of us want for our children is for them to grow up as “me monsters.”
If you’ve never seen comedian Brian Regan’s sketch about the Me Monster, please go on YouTube at some point and look it up. It’s hilarious and very accurate about narcissists and egomaniacs.
But seriously, who wants their child to grow up and think that the world revolves around them, and everything exists to please and placate their every desire?
I highly doubt any parent desires that.
Just imagine for a sec that you were at a parenting conference and one of the breakout sessions was called How to Confidently Raise An Egomaniac And Entitled Brat.
I’m pretty sure the attendance for that one would be sparse at best.
We want our kids to be confident, not arrogant. I wrote a great post about building confidence in kids that goes into more detail. Check it out!
How do I pray for my kids to be humble and teachable?
Here’s an example.
Would you instill in Addie a humble and teachable heart?
I desire for her to grow up confident in who you’ve made her to be, but I want her to have a humble spirit.
Please help her to see that everything she does is an opportunity to bring you glory and honor.
Help her to have a teachable heart and to see that she is a work in progress, striving each day to look more and more like Jesus.
Please let her be quick to admit her wrongs, forgiving of others, and willing to listen to correction from Mommy and Daddy.
May she see that the world does not revolve around her, but in fact it revolves around you, God.
And please use her precious life to shine brightly for you to those around her. Amen.
You’ve read through 3 sample prayers now!
If you’re wanting to tweak them for your own kids, just insert your child’s name where needed.
If these prayers seem too long or wordy for you, trim them down and make it your own.
Do what works for you.
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Love for God’s Word
If you pray consistently for your kids, remember to include a love for God’s Word.
We live in a world of information overload. There is so much info! Too much I think.
Basically there’s a lot of nonsense and garbage out there, and not a lot of truth.
Not everything that’s “trendy” is actually good for your heart and mind.
At least that’s what I’ve come to find.
Addie is 6, and very impressionable.
She definitely thinks for herself, but being so young, listens and learns from others around her and from anything she’s reading or watching.
That’s both good and bad.
Jesh and I have to be very vigilant about what she watches on TV and the things we allow her to read.
We have to have boundaries with this kid because she doesn’t have the discernment yet to know what is/isn’t good for her little mind and heart.
All that to say, we desire for Addie to love God’s Word.
In our family, we hold the truths of the Bible as precious and very important.
Jesh has been reading the Bible to Addie since she was an infant.
She’s been memorizing Scripture since before she was 2!
It has always been our desire to get Scripture into her heart and mind from the very beginning.
When Addie turned 5, I made her a flip book of all of the verses she’d memorized up to that point.
Some days I have her grab her memory verse book and review all the verses.
It’s amazing how much she knows!
If she has a question about something or wants to know how to treat people or serve people, she can look in the Bible and discover it for herself.
Look for opportunities throughout your day to get God’s Word into your children’s hearts and minds.
How do you pray for your child to love God’s Word?
Great question! Here’s an example.
Today I’m coming to you and asking that you would help Addie to love your Word.
Help her to see that it’s powerful and effective in teaching her the things she needs to know.
The verses she’s known since she was very young, I pray would come into her mind when she needs them most.
I pray that the Bible would bring her peace and comfort when she’s worried, and bring clarity to her heart if she’s confused about something.
I pray that she would never grow tired of hearing the Word of God spoken or read to her.
May it always guide her throughout her whole life. Amen.
Recess Time: Get Some Great Resources!
You’re almost done with the article. Treat yourself to one of these great resources!
My Favorite Bible For Kids
The Jesus Storybook Bible by Sally Lloyd Jones
This Bible is wonderful! The subtitle on the front says “Every Story Whispers His Name.”
I love the stories included in this version. I also appreciate the simple language and unique illustrations!
This makes a GREAT gift for a shower, birthday, or Christmas!
My Favorite Book On Prayer
A Praying Life by Paul Miller
Prayer can be really confusing, I hear ya! This is by far my absolute favorite book on the topic of prayer.
I feel like Paul shares honestly about his own struggles with prayer, as he wrestled for so long having a special needs child who was non-verbal.
He has great practical tips for incorporating prayer in your daily life and making it seem more doable. It’s SO GOOD!
Awesome Resource For Praying Scripture!
Raise Them Up: Praying God’s Word Over Your Kids
By Sally Burke and Cyndie Claypool De Neve
This book is filled with lots of Scripture and examples for how to apply those in prayer when it comes to your kids.
It’s broken up into chapters by categories for prayer such as suffering, boldness in faith, purity, peace, and salvation.
This book has lots of examples and great applications if you are wanting to be more disciplined and intentional about praying for your kids!
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Faith in the Storms
Most of us would love to pray that nothing bad ever happens to our kids, and that they’d go through life with little to no suffering.
It’s just natural as a mom to not want to see our kids endure any kind of pain.
The reality is it’s not a matter of if our kids go through hard times, but when our kids go through hard times.
The storms are going to come in one way or another, and it’s important for our kids to have faith to weather them.
If you think about it, when you go through hard times, that’s oftentimes when God works in your heart and life the most.
For me personally, there have been many storms these past 5 years.
We have weathered financial hardship, infertility, job loss, and strained relationships with family…and all of these have been difficult on our marriage.
But God has carried our marriage and family through it all.
God has refined some things in my heart that needed changing, and has fostered much more compassion in my life towards others who are hurting.
I feel like he’s allowed me to SEE people that I used to not see because I’ve walked the path of suffering.
There’s a great passage in the book of Romans that says, “Not only so, but we also glory in our sufferings, because we know that suffering produces perseverance; perseverance, character; and character, hope. And hope does not put us to shame, because God’s love has been poured out into our hearts…” (Romans 5:3-5)
That makes sense for adults. But how does it apply to my kids?
Addie is 6. She hasn’t experienced a great deal of suffering yet. I am thankful for that.
She’s had her share of 6 year-old disappointments: canceled play-dates, having to stay at home because of sickness, too cold to go outside, a day with a ton of time-outs, putting our dog down, etc.
I’m sure that as she grows up, there will be greater disappointments.
I want Addie to have a strong faith to be able to weather these disappointments and storms when they come her way.
In the storms, I want her to know these core truths:
From Addie’s perspective: “No matter what happens…”
I am a child of God. (I John 3:1)
I am loved by God. (I John 4:9-11)
God never changes. (Hebrews 13:8)
God is in control. (Isaiah 55:8-9)
He can be trusted. (Psalm 33:4)
God will never leave me or forsake me. (Deut. 31:6)
I can talk to God about anything. (Philippians 4:6-7)
God hears my prayers and cares about me. (I John 5:14-15)
God works all things for my good. (Romans 8:28)
In order for Addie to know these truths, she has to read them, listen to them, and learn to hide them in her heart.
If you’re wanting your kids to learn Scripture, you have to take the time to teach it to them! There are great resources out there.
There’s an awesome YouTube channel called Seeds Family Worship.
They put Scripture to music, and it helps kids learn the verses. The videos are great!
No matter how you do it, just figure out a way to read and learn Scripture together as a family.
Remind your kids how powerful and useful God’s Word is in their lives!
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Let’s Wrap Things Up!
Thanks for hanging with me through this post! I appreciate the commitment to learning how to pray consistently for your kids. This is such important and life-giving stuff!
For all of you note-takers out there, here is the list one more time.
5 Beautiful Things To Pray Consistently For Your Kids
- Love God and Others
- Great Friends
- Humble and Teachable
- Love God’s Word
- Faith in the Storms
If prayer isn’t something you’re used to, don’t fret! Just go for it.
You’ll never know what it’s like to talk to God unless you try, right?
I’m praying for confidence for you!
Remember, in all of this, your thoughts and end goal is to help your kids as they navigate their childhood and teen years.
What a precious gift to bathe their formative years in prayer!
It is one of the most beautiful and impactful acts of service that you could ever do for them.
Pray for your kids. Pray for them daily. And trust God with the results.
May God give you confidence, strength, and faith in the process.
Lots of love to each of you!
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